Okay, so we all know that we need a will. Like it or not, being born has a 100% mortality rate, and even for those of us who aren't exactly Bill Gates, a will is an important document that is just as vital for a 18 year-old as an 80 year-old. If you're hit by a bus tomorrow, it will tell your loved ones - all the more importantly if your death WAS unexpected - what you want done with your belongings, how you want to be remembered, and what you want to have done with your remains. It can also indicate important information if you don't
quite die regarding your personal beliefs about having extreme measures taken to prolong your life, and under what circumstances you'd rather just have the plug pulled or not.
But how many of you have a
fandom will?
I know this is something that I've never heard of, but I was just updating mine, and I realized that this is an area of life that affects a lot of us in this day and age, but which most of you probably haven't considered. So what do I mean by a fandom will?
Well, it's a document that I keep in printed form along with my regular will, although depending on how much your online life is separate from your real life, you might send a copy to a trusted fandom friend. It contains:
- Passwords and usernames to all of my accounts (LJ, fanfiction.net, DeviantArt, etc.)
- A list of the places I have an online presence, and messages that I want posted to those places when I die.
- A list of fandom-friends whom I want to send personal messages to upon my death, and copies of those messages, as well as their phone numbers.
- Who I want to take over my comm responsibilities when I die.
- What I want done with my fic and art online when I die...keeping it up, taking it down, etc.
- What I want done with my real-world physical fan belongings...the originals of my artwork, my fan collectables, and non-fandom physical belongings that I would like to leave to fandom friends. (On that note, does anyone want to dibs my box of art supplies or my Wacom?)
- What I want done with the fandom folders and materials on my computer.
- A notification to post on any WIPs I have outstanding at the time of my death.
- A fully detailed outline of exactly where I was going with "A Peccatis" so that if anyone else wants to finish it, they may, as well as so that I don't leave it completely hanging.
- Details as to what I want in terms of a "fandom funeral"...in other words, if someone wants to make a donation or do anything like that in my memory, where I would like it sent.
- Last but very DEFINITELY not least, how I would like "crossover" handled. In other words, if you died, how would you feel about fandom people showing up at your funeral IRL? A lot of us have formed friendships that are definitely close enough that I would want to go if something happened to you...but would YOU want that? Moreover, would that cause problems with your family and real-life friends. "Hi, I'm Andrew, I flew out from Virginia because Jane Doe and I were friends over the internet." Great. Now they think Jane had an online lover, or get to discover at a very delicate time that OhHaiThere, she wrote Harry Potter erotica as a hobby. Not good to come all the way just to start a family scandal and/or get banned. Nor good to turn out to be more of a BNF than one thought upon one's death, and to have your family outnumbered by people introducing themselves to one another by username. So I have included instructions on who would be welcome to come if they wanted to, as well as requests to them for how to handle "who the eff are you?" with my family.
Yes, this is kind of morbid, but it's also just plain wrong to ignore that the emotions of the people we make friends with here are real, so it's not fair to them to just vanish someday. Nor is it fair to your RL loved ones to leave them either aware of your fandom activities with no idea what they should do about it, or suddenly discovering that you have this entire online presence that they knew nothing about...and no idea what they should do about it.
Heck, some of you might even want to write a "Coming Out" letter as part of that package...something along the lines of "To whoever reads this, yes, I know you just discovered that box of printed fanfic under my bed and the seventeen files of art and fic and fic-in-progress on my computer. Let me explain, and no, just because a lot of it was HG/SS you don't have to suddenly worry that I was molested by my highschool chemistry teacher...."
Obviously, the exact contents will be personal to you, and who you leave it with or whether you put it with your regular will shall be as well, but I would really urge you to have one. And if you don't have a regular will, there's really very little excuse - ESPECIALLY if you have children! I will spare you all the rant of the horrific irresponsibility of THAT for the time being. Suffice to say that parenting involves sucking it up and doing all kinds of unpleasant things, and making sure that your children are still taken care of if they wake up orphans tomorrow after a freak ceiling fan accident is DEFINITELY one of them.
It doesn't have to be a formal thing drawn up by a lawyer...assuming there aren't going to be lawsuits over your extensive estate and you're not asking your children to be sold into slavery in Patagonia and the proceeds used to erect a monument to you made of cheese and fashioned in the image of a naked Gilderoy Lockhart, it merely needs to tell your loved ones what you can't. Grab a pen, a crayon, a pencil, a sharpie, a napkin, a post-it, or the back of a grocery bag and write it down, for Christsakes (not a computer document, those are too easily lost), sign it, date it, then
tell someone where it is. Just because YOU know it's in the third drawer of your desk in the manilla envelope is irrelevant if you're not around to tell someone that.
This ends Than's harrassment of you for today on matters you really didn't want to think about.